Tips For Planning A Small Wedding

December 31st, 2009 | by admin |

A small wedding can be far more intimate than a large wedding, and planning a small wedding is well within the reach of most people. At a small wedding, you will have more time to spend with your friends and family, and it will most likely be far less stressful. You will be able to concentrate on the details and make sure everyone has an enjoyable time.

When planning a small wedding for a few close friends and family members, you will be able to be more flexible with some of the details than you would otherwise. For example, where food is concerned you’ll have a lot more leeway. Depending on what your budget will allow, you can have hors d’oeuvres, a full buffet, or go all out with a catered event. If your wedding party is small enough, you can even reserve a room at a nice restaurant.

Planning a small wedding should not break the budget, and you can spend the money where it really matters. While no one will remember what they ate or drank, the photos and videos from the event will last forever. Your wedding should be a one-time affair, and you’ll want to capture photos of you in your wedding gown, and you’ll want them to be of the highest quality. You definitely don’t want to skimp on the photos and videos.

You will be able to involve your guests for when planning a small wedding. At one wedding, the couple had each guest sign their name and write their sentiments on the tablecloth. Through the next several years, the wife took those sentiments and embroidered them onto the tablecloth. Today, that is a cherished heirloom that will get passed down through the generations.

Smaller, more intimate weddings generally seem more personal than the large social gatherings some couples choose. When you are planning a small wedding, you have a lot more options on where to hold the event. You can have it in your home or another home, you could have a garden wedding, or you could rent a gazebo and have the wedding guests gather around it has you exchange vows.

Whether you decide to plan a small wedding or a large wedding, the size of the wedding is not necessarily tied to the size of the budget. Many couples have large weddings on a small budget, and you can definitely have a small wedding on a large budget. If you are planning a small wedding though, you should be better able to get the groom involved with the planning. Large weddings can be intimidating to the groom, as they see a lot of people involved. Planning a small wedding gives you both an opportunity to exchange ideas before you exchange your vows.

Matt Ream


  1. 10 Responses to “Tips For Planning A Small Wedding”

  2. By Caitlyn on Jan 1, 2010 | Reply

    Plan it as if you are planning any size wedding, but in smaller version. It also depends on how much money that you want to spend, where are you going to have the ceremony and reception, how much work do you want to put into it, and whether or not it is a formal wedding. If you don’t want to do much work into it then you can have it at a hotel. Some hotels have a minimum number of guests to use one of their banquet rooms. Usually the minimum is 30. The good thing about having it at a hotel is that you can have the out of town guests stay at the same hotel, which you can negotiate the room rate if you have at least 10 guestrooms per-day. They provide the tables, linens and napkins (they have a limited colors that you can choose from), silverware, and sometimes centerpieces. They set-up and clean the room for you. They prepare and serve the food for you and your guests. There are things that you still need to do yourself. Like sending the save the date and invitation cards out, getting the wedding dress and tux, arranging the rehearsal, etc. Go to the hotels where you want to have the wedding at. Some of them can even have the ceremony and reception, but you need to bring your own minister. Ask for wedding packages and compare them one to another. It is a bit more expensive to have it at a wedding but it is worth it. The cost ranges from $50.00 per person to $100.00, depending on what food and beverages that you choose. Some hotels even give a complimentary suite for bride and groom.
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  3. By Hemingway on Jan 1, 2010 | Reply

    Planning a wedding myself, I can tell you first hand that it’s a real handful. Each day the list of "things-to-do" grows. I hate to burst your bubble, but there is no such thing as a "small wedding". It takes nearly as much planning and preparation for a wedding with 50 guests as it does for a wedding with 500 guests. The cost, of course, is different, but you still have to consider the same things. I’m starting to understand why people hire wedding planners. There is plenty of free wedding-planning info on the web. Do a little surfing, compile your list of things-to-do and good luck!
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  4. By lydbo94 on Jan 1, 2010 | Reply

    All I can say is get a caterer if at all possible, we did all my sisters food at her wedding and it was years before we could look at another watermelon ball or sausage ball.
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  5. By tweety_angel23 on Jan 1, 2010 | Reply

    Keep it as simple as possible. We are making all the flowers and dresses ourselves. We rented our venue at the park and are keeping things small out there. Using balloons and bettas in fish bowls. Keep your guest list small will help also as there would not be as much food. My mom is a wedding planner so i kinda learned off of her.
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  6. By barthebear on Jan 1, 2010 | Reply

    Congratulations. Small is so so much better. Just pretend its a big party. Everything will be fine and simply do it your own way without all the stuffy protocol.
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  7. By kill_yr_television on Jan 1, 2010 | Reply

    You already know how to plan a party, and you KNOW you already know how to plan a party, so relax! It’s not as big and scary as "The Wedding Industry" would have you believe. (They want you to feel insecure and unsure so you’ll buy more stuff.) First tip is tell everyone "It’s going to be really small, just our immediate families" — it’s better to be sending invitation to people who hadn’t expected one than to NOT be sending invitations to people who believed they’d be invited. Second, go borrow Miss Manners and Emily Post from the library. That way when a member of the wedding industry assures that some particular item is "usual", "customary", or "traditions" you can counter with a confident "No, I don’t think so." Third, control your guest list. Don’t allow anyone into bully you into "and guest" or "and family" wordings. Would you rather ask your crazy cousin "Is there someone I should invite for you?" or just tell him "Bring a date" …??? Where free champagne is involved, you have every right to limit your hospitality to people that you actually know by name. Congrats and best wishes.
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  8. By Terri on Jan 1, 2010 | Reply

    Don’t worry too much about decorations. I can’t think of any wedding I’ve been to that people are talking about the decorations.

    Favors, make them edible, that way it will be used. Having a favor that isn’t edible is just going to collect dust in someone’s storage bin.

    Make your own invitations. Fiance and I spent $50 on 50 invitations, ribbon, and stamps.
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  9. By jflyirdong on Jan 1, 2010 | Reply

    Don’t let anybody push you into debt. You can have a small wedding according to your budget. My husband and I had it. One bride’s maid, dressed in a simple/conservative style($ 500) on both bride and maid outfit. Reception (BBQ style in our friend’s home(back yard to host 50-70 people). Make use of all friends and family. This is the best time they can show support in a meaningful way. If you take out the cost of rings, the rest should not be more than $1500. We set a new paradigm for our friends and family even though we could afford a lavish wedding. Simplicity is next to Godliness so keep it simple and you won’t regret.
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  10. By Loraine F on Jan 1, 2010 | Reply

    Rent a volunteer fire dept hall for the reception(mine was $20) and fit a lot of people. Get your cake from a grocery store. Borrow your dress. Let the bridesmaids have their dresses made for comfort and so they can wear them again. Do your own hair, same for bridesmaids. Have friends and/or family make the food. Skip the dance.

    My wedding was $400 total in 2002.
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  11. By PEARLJAM on Jan 1, 2010 | Reply

    My wedding, I think is really simple. There were no flower girls, bride’s maids or ring bearers anymore. I’m a catholic so we only have the principal and secondary sponsors (veil, candle, cord). We invited 100 guests. It was a simple yet a solemn one.
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